Have you ever been with a friend, in person or over the phone and they said, "please pray for me." I have...and on many occasions. As they come to mind again I do pray, but how much better would it have been if I had prayer for them right then and there.
That is what I've learned from a dear friend name Darlene. I used to belong to a particular homeschool co-op near our town and there were many families in attendance. Somehow Darlene and I hit it off. When we would see each passing in the hallways and time permitted, we would strike up a conversation, which always indelibly would call for one or both of us to say, "please pray for me" or "please keep that in prayer." And with that, I would file that prayer request in my mind and then when I was in my quiet time, I would go through my prayer request mind's file catalog and try to recall exactly what and who it was I was suppose to pray for. However, there have been times when the mentioned prayer need got lost somewhere between the request and me finally getting around to it. That's where the problem comes in. If I had just prayed for this dear one right then, I could have "reiterated" the prayer request later when it came to mind instead of trying to conger it up, especially if I had not written it down.
Darlene ALWAYS made it a point to pray for me where ever we were. It didn't matter the location, noise level, or traffic jam in the hallway. I remember being self-conscious about others peering in on us in the middle of the aisle way at times, but I guess Darlene figured that this was a Christian environment, so people should be used to seeing prayer happening often and without apology. And that's exactly how it was. Whenever the need arose, Darlene made it her business to offer up a request to God right then, right there...no delay.
I can do nothing but appreciate Darlene's sweet audacity. It was as though there was no one present but her and I. She was on a mission to "come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need." Hebrews 4:16. Nothing and no one mattered but the task at hand; petitioning our kind, gracious Heavenly Father who is ever present to hear our cries.
I cannot honestly say that I am as amazing and prompt as Darlene is in halting in the moment and sending up a prayer into the Heavens no matter the place or hour, but I am getting better at holy boldness.
Just recently I posted for another blog an entry entitled Smile. It was all about how I was not a natural smiler. I don't want to cross-post but wanted to elaborate on that thought a little deeper.
Smiling is such a beautiful gesture. It's a gift. A smile says so much. But often I've notice in people a superficial grin that has been less than lovely.
It happens all too often. A smile that's meaningless. What is the true sentiment behind our grins? I've asked myself a thousand times.
Recently I took a job working from home, which at times, proves to be a real blessing. It involves customer service, so a smile is at the top of the to-do-list. However, often a smile is the last thing that appears upon my mouth or heart, for that matter.
I am always cognizant of it when the person on the other end of the line is all but cooperative. Either they do not have the information requested, they do not understand what I am saying, the answers coming back are muffled due to a defective interference, or they are very impatient, demanding service NOW.
I have to constantly remind myself of what industry I find myself immersed in and force not only a friendly sounding smile through the phone, but one that genuinely comes from within. Moreover, my job is not the only place that this rings true.
In the blog post Smile, I shared how smiling was not always something I did, nor was it natural. I don't know that I looked mean and unapproachable (or maybe sometimes I did), but I certainly did not always look pleasant.
As I've been dealing with customers more and more and challenges arise, I am quick to remember the words recently penned in regards to making smiling an intentional exercise. I figure by me purposing to smile often, it will indeed become a natural way of life. In this instance, faking it until I make it will be all too acceptable.
Smiling from within is needed more in our world. Too often passerby's smiles are cheap, fleeting and far from authentic. Instead of it being a heartfelt gesture, it is minimized to an empty, obligated courtesy. I find this true in public with strangers, as well as, unfortunately, at church from week to week.
But even though I write this as something that bothers me immensely, I must look inside to examine my own heart. It's not so much about pointing fingers, but more about my own soul-searching. Matthew 7: 3-5, Psalm 139: 23-24.
So how can I know that I am offering a real smile versus one that is manufactured? A real smile can be felt in the pit of my gut. A real smile makes me feel good even if not responded to. A real smile is initiated by the Holy Spirit. Certain muscles are used with real smiles that are not used with plastic, painted-on ones. Additionally, I believe that others can detect the genuine from the counterfeit.
Moreover, as I am daily assisting with the needs of those in desperate crisis, I can practice what I preach. The person on the other end of the receiver ought to "hear" and feel my authenticity. They should know that I am smiling even if not looking at my face.
When I am in the presence of others, my smile ought to speak from my heart to theirs. When I am out in public and encounter a stranger, my smile ought to convey a sincerity that fake smiles cannot.
In essence, my smile needs to mimic my heart's voice. I realize that some days will take more effort than others. I may need to dig deep from within and keep digging until I find the treasure. And yes, a smile is a true treasure-rare and precious.
If there's one area in life that I find to be troublesome for me I would have to say it would be accepting the fact that sometimes in life there may not ever come closure. Closure is one of those delicate subjects that has exasperated me for years. For me it has mainly been in the form of relationships. I have never had a problem with letting relationships go, but only when I feel totally and completely satisfied with their ending, whether sweet or bitter.
I have two clear memories in my adult life when closure was not a luxury of mine. These instances occurred with two dear friends. Friendships that I held dear; and for no apparent reason (I thought), they just ended. No warning, no nothing. They just died, like back when analog phones were the norm and you would be talking one minute and the next...dial tone. There was no one on the other end for to say, "hey wait!" You were just left to yourself with many unanswered questions.
Because unsolved endings are hard for me to ingest, I've often found myself reaching out to that other person in desperate hopes of a simple explanation, a misunderstanding unwound, or at best, a final goodbye. In these two instances, no such remedy ever came [until many years later]. There was only silent avoidance. I couldn't understand. What had I done? It was literally like night and day. One day all was well; the next, all went away. And how did I handle it? Shear agony.
And therein lies the real problem. I tended to agonize over things I didn't understand nor had the ability to do anything about. I mulled over and over situations in my life that didn't make sense to me even though I knew better. We are told in God's Word to "be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made know to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your heart and minds through Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7. That would be too easy, right? Why couldn't I just do what God's Word says? Wouldn't I cause myself much less grief? Of course I would.
That reminds me of a familiar hymn which echos the lines:
O what peace we often forfeit,
O what needless pain we bear,
All because we do not carry
Everything to God in prayer!
So I decided some time back to accept the fact that there are going to be situations in life that I will not understand. There will be complex finalities. Mysteries never solved, Relationships will come and relationships will go. Sometimes for the worse. Sometimes for the best. I've realized that some people are great at facing uncomfortable conversations, while others are not. I must admit, there have been times when I have avoided unpleasantries and may have left some soul with an unanswered ending. However, as I learn, grow and mature I try to make my best attempt at finishing what needs to be finished, especially in the way of relationships. And more importantly, I'm learning not to wait too long to handle what may be the inevitable.
Death is one of those things that is, most certainly, a mystery. I, like many of you, have had my experience with the death of loved ones and friends and each time, it has been devastating. But I believe that the more we understand death and what happens to our departed, the softer the blow becomes. This subject is often misunderstood and I've decided to use this space to explain, from the Bible, the truth about death. The Bible is VERY clear on the subject.
Before we go any further, let's remember, Satan has an agenda. His agenda began from the very beginning. He lied to Eve telling her, "Ye shall not surely die." Genesis 3:4
First, I'd like to share what happens to the body at death and then I'll share where the body goes at death. This is not a conclusive study. Please take some time on your own and discover these truths from God's Word. When we study these deep topics and learn for ourselves, and see with our own eyes what God says, it becomes more real in our life.
In order to understand what happens to the body at death, we need to first go back to Creation. When we were created, our bodies were formed from the dust of the Earth. We obtained life through the breath that God breathed into us [man], so essentially we came from dust or dirt and a breath (God's breath). And that's it. Our body was formed from dust and our life came from God's breath. Body + Breath = Soul/Person (life). At death, the very reverse happens. Our body goes back to the Earth from which it came and the breath that was given us of God goes back to Him. Body - Breath = No Soul/Person (death). Ecclesiastes 12:7
When a person dies and is put in their casket and lowered into the ground, that is where the body stays until Christ returns. If a person is cremated, the body that was formed from dirt becomes ashes and the breath is still returned to God who gave it.
The person is no longer alive because the breath that kept them alive in no longer in that person's body. It goes back to the Lord, but not that whole person, only the breath that was breathed into him/her at the time they came to be (at conception). Once that person dies he/she has no knowledge of anything. The Bible states in Ecclesiastes 9:5, "For the living know that they shall die, but the dead know not any thing." If they were in Heaven, as some believe, this statement could not be true. If they were smiling down on us, or enjoying life with God, why would this statement be in God's infallible Word?
Moreover, the Bible calls death a sleep, Job 14:10-12, Psalm 13:3, Daniel 12:2, which make perfect sense, since the Bible also declares what happens to the dead in Christ once He returns."For the Lord himself shall descend from Heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first..." 1 Thessalonians 4:16. But if they are already there (Heaven), how can they rise first, or why would that verse be written? God will not contradict Himself. If ever we find contradictions in God's Word, it is not a contradiction at all, it is our human error, our misunderstanding, and thus, we must ask the Holy Spirit for understanding and He promises to give it. Psalm 119:130, James 1:5.
But wait, wait, what about the verse that says, "absent from the body is present with the Lord," 2 Corinthians 5:8, one may question. Does that not conclude that our loved ones are in Heaven immediately upon death? But what is not understood here is that the breath that is lend to us from the Lord at birth, it is the only thing that returns to Him, not the body, the soul or the spirit. Again, the body returns to the dust, from which it came. Ecclesiastes 3:20, and the breath returns to the Lord who gave it.
I understand that it is hard for us to let our loved ones go and be at peace with the fact that they are resting in their grave or on the sea (if cremated and sprinkled there), but the Bible is so comforting on the subject of death. He (God) would not have us ignorant concerning these things. 1Thessalonians 4:13
We can rest assured that the Bible is true and ALL of life's answers can be found therein. Study the Word of God and pray that the Lord will open your eyes to this truth if you have ever wondered what truly happens when a person becomes no more. Proverbs 2:6
-Life sure has a way of bringing unexpected changes that you may or may not be ready for. Last year was a colossal change for me and to say the least, I cannot say that it was a change I woke up that Tuesday morning, April 1st, and welcomed with open arms.
It was a routine Tuesday morning. Les, my husband, was getting ready for work. Through the bathroom door I could hear his usual teeth-brushing gag that was normal for him. However, this morning it seemed more intense. When he came out of the bathroom, I inquired if he was okay, and he assured me he would be alright. Within twenty minutes or so, he was out the door. Today was going to end in a long night for him, as he was conducting an evening training after his regular shift.
On rare occasions, I would only hear from Les by text or by the end of the day. Today was one such time. Around 7:45 p.m. that evening, the kids and I were getting ready for bed and I receive a phone call. I suspected it would be Les letting me know he was on his way home. However to my surprise, it was Shirlynn, his boss, alerting me that Les was in the emergency room at Bolingbrook hospital. He had become ill at work, and she was waiting there with him. I could hear him in the background groaning in pain. I was floored. Hospital? Emergency? Now? I was on my last bit of juice for the day and reasoned in my mind that I had no more to give. I said a quick prayer for strength, got the kids dressed, and we headed out the door for the hour-long drive to Bolingbrook Hospital.
After settling the kids in the waiting room, I was quickly escorted back to the room where Shirlynn sat in despair, Les attempted to lay back but struggled in excruciating pain. He suffered from peripheral vascular disease. He had been in pain for months but regrettably ignored it and continued on with life as usual. But little did we know, that all was to come to a terrific halt.
Shirlynn informed me that he was about to begin his training class when he started to feel nauseous, sweaty, and light-headed. One of his students noticed and immediately called 9-1-1. Shirlynn was on her way home, and as she was exiting the company parking lot noticed an ambulance. Something prompted her to turn around. Obeying her instincts, she made a u-turn, and quickly found out that it was Les who was minutes away from being transported in that very vehicle that just passed her by.
I stood beside Les' bed trying to comfort him, but the pain had escalated to the degree that he could not be touched. Moments later, Dr. Carell (Les' vascular doctor), flew in the door eagerly interrogating Les as to how long his leg had been hurting and why he had not contacted him. Les mumbled something through the pain. After a brief look at his leg, Dr. Carell informed us all that Les needed to be wheeled in for an angioplasty. Within 30 minutes, Les was being taken down several hallways for surgery. I followed the nurses down what seemed like endless hallways. I was shell-shocked. It was all happening at lightening speed. My emotions could not keep up with the rapid events. Just before we got into the surgery room, the nurses pointed me to a waiting room and said it should not take long. I kissed Les good-bye and walked slowly into the lonely, isolated room I was instructed to wait in. There were chairs, a desk with a phone, and a television. I picked up the phone, called up front, and asked the emergency room clerk to send the children back to the room I was in. The children never made it, and I eventually found them asleep in the car. I urged them to come in, but they preferred our van to the uncomfortable, TV-blaring, impersonal, emergency waiting room. I could not leave the children in a hospital parking lot in the middle of the night. I could not leave Les to come out of surgery abandoned. I was in a terrible dilemma. What to do? I finally made the decision to go home and wait for the recovery nurse to call me. The children and I made it home about midnight, and we all went straight to bed. About 2 a.m. the phone rang, and I could hear Les on the other end crying in agonizing pain. "I don't understand," I said. "You just had surgery, what happened? Didn't Dr. Carrell fix the problem?" "No," he said. "My arteries are so clogged, he couldn't get through." "But didn't he give you something for the pain?" I asked. "Yes, but it's not helping." Les stated. I was torn. I needed to be there. I could not help him. What kind of wife was I? I was exhausted and helpless. All of a sudden I hear the nurse yelling in the background for him to get off of the phone. I later learned that he was half sitting up in bed putting pressure on his groin area which was forbidden after surgery. He quickly hung up the phone, and I began to pray.
April 2nd (today) was the day my family was to arrive. By now they should be at the airport. My sister and her family had been planning to visit us for months. She had come before to visit but never with her whole family. The children knew nothing about it. It was to be the surprise of the year. An expensive and well-awaited trip we were very excited about. I had planned to buy groceries that morning and make sure the house was ready, but all of that changed. I was torn again. I called a friend who immediately came over. She, in turn, called another friend to stay with the children while she and I went to the hospital. Before she got there I dashed to Wal-Mart to pick up a few things. While in the store I made a call to my sister's cell phone. I knew by now her plane had landed at O'Hare Airport. My brother-in-law answered letting me know that she was at the rental car counter. "Kendall, please have her call me right away, it's urgent," I pleaded. "Okay," he said. As I began to scan the groceries at the self-check out register, my sister returned my call. I could not speak; I just cried when I heard her voice. She was so excited. Through sobs I tried to explain what was happening at that very moment with Les. She was calm and soothing and demanded I leave the groceries right there and get to the hospital immediately. "But it's your vacation I continued with childish weeping, all the money you spent to come..." "It wasn't supposed to be this way." "Tasha, stop it right now," she gently ordered. "The Lord brought us here at the perfect time. I will take care of everything. Don't worry about anything. I will go to the store. I will take care of the children, I will get there...go to the hospital!" I drove home quickly and met my friend. We got to the hospital just in time for the second surgery. Unfortunately, the second and third angioplasties were unsuccessful, so Les was transported to La Grange Memorial Hospital where we would spend the next month.
The Lord personally ushered Dr. Walsh into our life. He performed the next level surgery Les required. A fasciotomy is needed when a person develops compartment syndrome, which Les had. Dr. Walsh was the best in his field which I detected instantly from our brief conversation. He assured me he would do everything he could to save Les' leg. The two hour surgery that was predicted became six hours. Everyone that I had informed up to that point was praying, and I was grateful. I needed all the strength I could inherit through intersession. I was surviving on prayers and adrenaline alone. By about 8 p.m. that evening Les was out of surgery. He was intubated and a trach was inserted. I was told he needed both since a fasciotomy is one of the most painful surgeries a person can have performed and thus he would be on high doses of pain medications. The fasciotomy was required due to Les developing Acute Compartment Syndrome. About one day post-op Les developed a high fever, but Dr. Walsh informed me that fevers were common after surgery and that it should break. He was closely monitored by the infectious disease team, but after a week the fever only increased. I could tell by the looks and whispers among the doctors that things were serious and that we needed to pray more than ever. I tried to call every prayer warrior I knew. Somehow, although I did not put Les' condition online, it became viral. I was overwhelmed by the love and support we received. I could not believe the interest and concern that surfaced. Additionally, a dear friend encouraged me to start a Caring Bridge journal which allowed me to post up-to-the-minute status' on Les and request prayers for specific needs. Caring Bridge was a true blessing. It gave me a place not only to log Les' condition, but I was able to journal the details of what I was experiencing as well.
After about six days of spiked fevers and the doctors doing everything they knew to do, I was informed by one of the team members that there were three possible options. (1) We could do nothing and hope Les improves on his own; (2) We could perform a debridement as Les' wound had become septic, thus the fevers; or (3) We could amputate the infected leg. Amputate!!! I never in my wildest imagination considered amputation. "He's only 47," I concluded. "What about our family?" "He is a dad with a young son." "What will people think of us?" Sheer fear ripped through every cell. This cannot be happening. "He just got a little ill at work. How did we get here? This is not happening to me. It cannot be. It is too much to bear."
As the word spread, prayers poured in. I felt strength from On High. Little did I know, there was more coming my way. My mind rested on Les having a debridement performed as that seemed the most logical solution. Just as I begin to settle on my decision, I was visited by another doctor who entered the room with the most sober look on his face. He pulled up a chair, which the doctors never did (they did not have time for that), and asked if he could talk to me. I sat next to him and listened intently. "Mrs. Hamilton," he began, "I know you were told you have three options for your husband, but actually you have only one. We will need to amputate your husband's leg in order to save his life. He is too sick to have the debridement performed. We need your consent right away," he stated. I stared in disbelief. I could not swallow. I could not think. I could not focus. "How could I make this decision for him. He is completely unconscious. He does not know anything. I cannot allow them to take his leg without his permission. I cannot do it." The doctor seemed to have no feeling or emotion. He did not try to comfort me whatsoever. He did not rub my shoulder, nor did he say, "I know this is difficult," or, "I'm sorry." Nothing. He just walked out of the room. I was left alone...devastated.
A couple of hours later a friend arrived, and I collapsed into her arms in total bewilderment. All I could say through tears and sobs were, "I cannot do it, I cannot do it." "Yes, you can," she assured me. I felt comforted by her motherly wisdom, but still knots surfaced in my stomach as the next surgery lingered. Many visitors showed up at the hospital for support. The love was so overwhelming at times it felt like a dream. Looking back now, I know it was God showing His great care for me in what seemed at the time the worst days and weeks of my life.
Many miracles happened during my lodging at La Grange: one nurse took my clothes to her home to launder, the Surgery Center allowed me to shower everyday, the chaplain allowed me to take naps in her office, the manager of nurses of the ICU was a Christian and showed me favor when certain nurses were behaving unprofessionally. My children even gave me a birthday party in the waiting room. Another nurse finished her 12-hour shift and left the hospital to go and purchase birthday gifts for me. I woke up after dozing off in the hospital room chair, and a dear friend from church was standing by my chair with balloons. I experienced some of the most amazing nurses' care that a patient and wife could ever ask for and for the greatest miracle of all--Dr. Moy.
There came a time after a month in La Grange that the doctors could do no more for Les. The amputation was performed and still Les' condition did not improve. He was lying at death's door. The doctor's walked around scratching their heads. They did not know what else to do. I struggled with anger and confusion as they told me that the amputation would surely take the fevers away, but in fact it had not. If anything, his condition had gotten worse. I decided I would take my first trip home and relieve myself from those four hospital walls that I had become so accustomed to. On my quiet drive home, I contemplated all that had occurred in the last month. It was surreal. "Was this truly happening to me?" "Was this truly happening to my husband?" The phone interrupted my thoughts. It was Laura, a good friend who had been walking this journey with me. She sounded strange and urgent at the same time. "What's wrong?" I asked. She said, "Christine (another friend on the journey), and I need to have a meeting with you." "A meeting, I thought?" "About what?" I asked. "I am not at the hospital. I am driving home for a little break." Through stutters, she proceeded to tell me that she and Christine had been talking and that it was urgent that they get together with me. "What about?" I inquired again. "What's going on," I probed forceably. "Well.....we, we, we... we think you need to get him out of there," she blurted out. "They have done all they can do and it is time for you to get him to a tertiary hospital." "Wait...what!! Hold on! What! How can I just take him out? I cannot just get him out of bed. He is intubated and has several IV's. How can I just do that? I do not know where to send him!" I got off the phone with Laura and I was speechless. I immediately dialed our friend, Andre, who works at University Illinois at Chicago and relayed everything that was just told me. He replied with a calm voice. "I think she is right Tasha. Angela (his wife) and I were just talking about that this morning." "WHAT!!" I say. How does everyone know what to do except me???? I began to vomit out all of my anxiety about what to do, where to go, how to get him out, what the current doctors will think about this rash decision? It was too much to bear. Andre calmed my nerves, told me he would call a doctor friend of his and get back to me.
By now I was home, pacing the floor not knowing what to do in this foreign place. I called Les' room and asked our nurse who this week's on call doctor was. She told me Dr. Moy. He was new to us, and that made me a little worried. He had not known all that we had gone through. He had not had a chance to meet me, to meet Les, to know that I was a devoted wife who had never left the hospital until now, that I only wanted the best for Les. He could not look into my eyes and see that I was sincere and that I was not there to judge any of Les' current doctor's ability as physicians. He was just coming on the scene this week, new, only reading a chart, not really familiar with our situation. What would he think when I insisted that my husband be transferred because he was not improving here? Andre returned my call and informed me that I needed to get a doctor from La Grange to approve a transfer for Les. That was the best and only way to insure a smooth transition. He also warned me not to transfer Les to UIC where he worked. He suggested Rush Chicago, Northwestern, or Loyola. He said that those were the best choices and to try to push for Rush Chicago. I called Nathan, who had been our assigned social worker during our stay, and told him of my immediate future plans. He let me know that if I had Les transferred on my own accord, that I would be responsible for all transport fees to be paid up front. WHAT!! There was no way I could pay that kind of money, that would be thousands of dollars! I disconnected with him as I could not ingest anymore from our conversation.
In a few moments the phone rang again. It was Dr. Moy. The most angelic voice I had ever heard over the phone was now speaking to me. "Hi, Dr. Moy, this is Mrs. Hamilton, my husband Les is one of your patients this week." And before he could say anything I regurgitated all that needed to happen and happen soon. I desperately needed his help to make it all come to fruition. I tried to sound dignified, intelligent and civil but somehow I do not think I came across that way. I finally quieted down enough to hear what he had to say. With the most delicate and gentle voice Dr. Moy said, "Mrs. Hamilton I completely agree with you. I just read over your husband's chart and I see we have done all that we can do. I would be happy to assist in any way I can." "What?" "You mean you will help us," I asked in disbelief? "Yes, I will do all that I can." I began jumping up and down quietly, "YES!!!! Thank you Lord!" "And by the way Dr. Moy, can we get Les into Rush Chicago?" I added. Dr. Moy suggested Loyola as he said that Loyola was more accepting of existing cases. That it would make it easier to get in and the transfer would be smoother there. He said that Rush Chicago had a tougher acceptance policy when it came to my husband's situation, especially being an ICU patient. I told him I would really like to get Les into Rush and that if he could not, Northwestern would be our next choice with Loyola being our final choice. He seemed a little disappointed at my insistence but agreed to give it a try.
Arriving back at La Grange's familiar second floor ICU wing, I proceeded to exit the elevator and round the corner only to find a gentleman in a doctor's coat coming my way. I did not recognize this new face and proceeded with my current thoughts. Behind him, about 100 feet away, was Jaycee, our nurse for the day, jumping up and down with her famous grin. "What's going on?" I thought? As this doctor approached closer, he said, "Mrs. Hamilton?' "Yes, that is me..." "Hi I'm Dr. Moy." "Oh, hi Dr. Moy." "You would not believe who I got on the line at Rush Chicago?" He stated. "Who?" I thought. "It was one of my classmates from medical school." And with the greatest grin, he informed me that Les was accepted that quickly and that he would be transferred in just a few hours. Unheard of...it was nothing but the grace of God. I learned that transfers rarely happened that quickly. Here I stood overwhelmed yet again at what God was doing for us. I could hardly believe the words that flowed from his lips. Just two hours prior it was only a strong suggestion that I get Les transferred, and now it was a reality--and all so quickly. This all happened because of Dr. Moy. Though our time together was brief, he was hand-picked by God-for us.
After leaving La Grange, Les stayed at Rush Chicago for two weeks where he immediately began to improve. He was transferred to Kindred Weaning Hospital for three weeks, then Hinsdale Hospital for rehabilitation and therapy for another two weeks, and finally released just before Father's Day.
In those two months the Lord taught me much. Along with the miracles, there were also devastations, too many to mention now, but God was faithful. He never left me alone even in my darkest hours. He taught me about His love and care for me through others. He taught me how to accept help from others even when I did not want to. He taught me about humility. He taught me that I cannot always control the outcome. He taught me about suffering and that He suffered with me. He showed me my pride. I did not want to share with everyone what was happening in my life initially. I did not want to be judged or pitied. But as people learned of our fate, many prayed for which I will forever be grateful.
We have and will face tough times through this loss, but I have learned to trust our Heavenly Father in ways I may not have otherwise.
Don't you wish that every time you had to make a decision you could be confident that it was the right one? Me too. I have often wished I knew that every one of my decisions were the perfect one without a doubt. But that's not how it is, is it? It all comes down to a matter of trust. And more importantly, we must know who we are putting our trust in. Psalm 31:14 gives us a clue. We can be sure that when we consult in our God as the Ultimate Counselor, He will lead us on the right path. Psalm 31:3.
Recently I had to make a major decision. It was one I had dragged my feet on but knew that it had to be done. One of the reasons I procrastinated was because I assumed others would not understand. I was concerned with what people would think of me. There were a few people that would be affected indirectly, but not to a significant degree. And why am often so worried or concerned with what others will think about decisions I make in my life? I don't know, but I've been guilty of that...more than once.
Still in all, the Lord was calling me to a different path and I didn't want to change my course. The course I was on seemed easier, comfortable and familiar. Have I not learned yet that His ways are perfect? 2 Samuel 22:31. As with the priests at the Jordan river, I needed to just step into the water and see the Lord work. It wasn't until that step of faith was taken that the miracle was wrought. Often, taking that step appears dreadfully difficult.
So in essence, I have the peace that the Lord promises when I obey. 1 Peter 1:2. Even when I don't understand, obedience is always better than sacrifice. 1 Samuel 15:22. Unfortunately I have had to learn lessons the hard way by thinking I know better instead of hearkening to His voice; however in this instance, I am proud to say I did not follow my heart, which is, by the way, deceitful and desperately wicked and at times I act as though I don't know it. Jeremiah 17:9.
I am thankful that the Lord cares about my decisions and is willing and able to help me in the decision-making process. All I need to do is cooperate with Him fully. 2 Corinthians 13:11. The other important thing I must ever keep in mind in making decisions is to trust and obey the Commander of my life.
This is one of my favorite dishes but I am still in the process of perfecting as I can't seem to get the pie crust "just right" every time. So for that reason I'll only be picturing the filling and not the crust. My crust did not come out the best, but was tasty. First I'll show you what I did, then I'll post the actual recipe from the cookbook I used. Remember you will need enough pie crust for a top and bottom. Also you can use a pre-made pie crust as well.
Gently fold in vegetables until all are covered
Filling: Freeze, thaw and squeeze dry, and cut into 1/2" cubes:
1 lb. tofu
Parboil for 10 minutes and save the cooking water from:
1C potatoes, cut in 1/2" cubes
1C carrots, sliced or cut in 1/2" cubes
1 Tbsp. oil
1 medium onion, chopped
1 clove garlic, minced
1/2 tsp. salt
When the onions are soft, add the tofu cubes, parboil vegetables and peas, and continue to
simmer while preparing gravy.
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.
Let bubble together over low heat for about 1 minute:
3 Tbsp. oil
3 Tbsp. whole wheat flour
3 Tbsp. nutritional yeast
1 1/2 C vegetable cooking water 1/2 thyme
1 1/2 C soy or almond milk 1/2 garlic powder
1 tsp. salt 1/2 black pepper (I substituted sweet basil)
1 tsp. sage 1/2 paprika
Heat and stir with the whisk until boiling and thickened. Mix the tofu-vegetable mixture and the gravy together in a 2-quart casserole and cover with the pie crust. Bake for 30-40 minutes or until the crust is golden.
**please comment if you have any questions.
Recipe taken from Tofu Cookery by Louise Hagler
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The Lord has a great sense of humor. Before I became a mother I prayed that God would bless me with a son. I just knew that I would be the best mom of a son as I imagined boys were easier, plus I knew that hair was not for me. I foreknew that the only accessory I would need with sons would be a good set of hair clippers. With daughters however, I knew I would not have the privilege of an occasional $10 visit to the barber shop; girls would be a little more involved.
The Lord however, in His infinite wisdom, not only blessed us with a daughter, but 3 of them (and later a 4th), and the hair to go with them. My first 3 gifts came furnished with their own personal lion's mane and boy have we had a time with those tresses. 2 of the 3 girls were excruciatingly tender-headed. After about a year of these unpleasant hair-combing parties, I call myself finding a clever way to alleviate this daily torture. I would create hair styles that lasted 3-4 days and therefore, would subject myself and them to only bi-weekly distress. Little did I realize at the time that daily hair combing yielded no tears, no stress and no struggle. The knots, matting and tangles only formed when I did not take the time to beautify their crowns daily.
That reminds me of another area of life that requires strict daily adherence to eliminate tears, stress and struggle. And that my friend is daily devotions. Early in my Christian walk there were days when I did not make morning quiet time a priority. I would sleep in. I would reason I didn't have time. I would conveniently forget. On those unfortunate occasions my days would end up in all sorts of knots, tangles and tears. I would notice my attitude would not be in check. Anger would rise. Pride would get in the way. Self-righteousness would creep in. And ohhh...let's not mention selfishness - the King of them all.
I've often compared the daily hair-combing experience of my girls with that of daily devotions. The Lord has taught me that it is best not to skip either. It didn't take me long to make each a necessary part of my [daily] life. I finally had enough of the knots, matting and tangles coupled with flared temper, selfishness and pride. I longed for the peace and joy that the Lord promised when I rest in Him. I learned early that being in Him starts when I rose in the morning, making Him my first priority.
The Lord did eventually bless us with a son. I am his main barber but at times we do visit the shop. I'm glad that the Lord gives us what we need and not always what we want, after all, He knows best.
I've always marveled and at the same time been puzzled at the statement in the Bible when God said, "Tell them I AM has sent me to you," speaking of God telling Moses what to relay to the Israelites if they ask, "Who sent you to us?" Exodus 3:14
"I AM" sent you? That doesn't say much... I thought. But in actuality, it says a lot. It encompasses all. All I could ever need - God is. If He were the only one I had in this life He would be enough. I know it is hard to believe, but it's true. He can be my All-and-All if I allow Him to be. When making Christ First, Best and Last in my life, I am never disappointed.
Let's take a glimpse at just 10 "AMs" that encapsulates all that God is:
I AM the BREAD [of life] - John 6:35
Satisfies the soul like no other
I AM [the living] WATER - Isaiah 55:1
For that unquenchable thirst
I AM the LIGHT [of the world] - John 8:12
One to light a darkened world
I AM the Good SHEPHERD - John 10:11
A guide, leader and protector
I AM a FATHER - Philippians 1:2
Provides all one's needs
I AM a BROTHER - Hebrews 2:11
Sticks close like a brother would
I AM a ROCK - Psalms 18:31
Solid and never changing
I AM a REFUGE - Psalms 91:2
Provides safety and security
I AM the TRUTH - John 14:6
The only truth there is
I AM a HUSBAND - Isaiah 54:5
Meets the soul's deepest needs
Let's make Christ our I AM today.